After giving my talk on Wednesday and posting the recording, I heard from an old college friend that I have not seen in years. She expressed her appreciation for my willingness to share the process for handling conflict. She admitted to me that her inability to handle conflict was affecting her relationships. She is working with someone on releasing fear around this.
Just hearing the word conflict brings up negative emotions. But working through differences always yields something more beautiful in the end. Most of the time, the conflict arises because of how we perceive a situation. Our perceptions are formed from our past experiences. We have all had different experiences, so we are going to have different perspectives. We all have our own unique worldview.
Discussing a situation and understanding the different perceptions that are involved bring enlightenment and learning. We should have the attitude of “help me understand”. The discussion will also bring to light the other person’s intentions, which are usually pure and in our own best interest.
My friend, Cindy Wilson, specializes in helping people shift their view. She is a wonderful teacher, a talented photographer and a very wise woman. Check out her photography:
Maybe we all need to shift our view. Uncover our blind spots. See the world differently.